Monday, November 17, 2014

How to overcome loneliness...

To understand and overcome loneliness, it is necessary to understand that everything in life is a paradox. Hence, to remove this feeling, we have to be alone. Let’s also remove the drama from the equation. There is no need to become a recluse, a hermit or to go and live alone up in the mountains for the rest of our lives. Your marital status doesn’t influence this process either. One can be single, married or in any other kind or relationship. We can share accommodation with others or live alone. It is about learning to be alone and just being. To do this, we do not need anyone else.

It does take courage to face loneliness, but you already have more than enough within. It is only a matter of tapping into it. And you will only see it when you face it. The intention is to become comfortable being alone; to realise that we are enough as we are and that you are your best friend. One of the secrets to a happy life and towards enlightenment is to realise that the best relationship we can ever have is with ourselves. If we don’t overcome the fear of being alone, we will never have a healthy relationship with anyone.

It is important that you find time to be completely alone. While loneliness is an uncomfortable feeling, being alone is not a disease. There might be a social stigma attached to it, but there is nothing wrong with it. It is a time we use to nurture and understand ourselves.

This is a process which you should carry out in the way that best serves you. Be flexible and be creative. Feeling is the essential part. Sit for an hour or so alone doing nothing. Remove all distractions from your life during this period. No phones, TV, computers, reading or talking to anyone. You could either sit alone at home or go for a walk, but if you choose to do so, do go to places where you know you are not going to meet anyone and be interrupted. Don’t sabotage your growth. Self-sabotage is something people are excellent at. If you have the opportunity, long walks in nature really help. Full story...

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